“If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow this person to be your friend?”
I am curious to know how you answer this question. We don’t give too much thought to inquires like this until someone flat out asks us. However I think it is important to spend some time with this question and reflect on our “self-talk” conversations. Have you ever said to yourself “you are so stupid”, “I can’t believe you did that”, “you are a fat slob”, you will never get the job”, “you are not good enough”, or “no one will ever love you”? Chances are you have. Now imagine going out to dinner with your best friend and throughout the meal they said these exact same things to you. How would that go over? Would you give them a big hug at the end of the meal and marvel about how great it was to see them? Probably not, unless of course you have an uncanny tolerance for mistreatment which I certainly hope isn’t the case.
Most of the time we are our own worst enemy. We allow negative thoughts to set up shop right between our two ears. We argue for limitations instead of for possibilities. It is time to break up with the internal demons that are holding you hostage in your head. Choose your words wisely. Speak to yourself the same way that you would speak to someone you care for dearly. Be kind to your ‘self’ and allow your ‘self’ to be kind to you.