self-talk

Habit 2: They Talk To Themselves In The Mirror

Talk To Yourself In The Mirror

Joyful, triumphant, and content people make it a frequent practice to talk to themselves in the mirror.  Are they crazy? No.  Research has shown that there are many valuable benefits of talking to yourself in the mirror.  So what do they say?  Well here are  seven things that people who experience more joy, success, and contentment in their living say to themselves:

1.  There are no mistakes.  Only lessons.

These folks have come to know that making mistakes is part of life.  Their viewpoint is that errors are their pathway to learning and success.  Also, these folks are more content in their lives because they accept the fact that mistakes are often gifts.  They take things in stride and don’t get bogged down in negative thoughts or self-talk.

2.  They are clear about why they started a project or adventure.

They remind themselves often of why they started down a path to begin with, whether it is starting a business, writing a book, entering into a relationship, or planning a trip.  They consistently check in with their decision to commit in the first place.  They also enjoy the growth that comes along with the project or adventure.

3.  They encourage themselves to get it right before they start.

It is much easier to get it right to begin with than it is to right the ship after it has sailed.  They spend the time to think through the details on the front end of a decision.  They don’t rush to a result. 

STOP The Negative Self-Talk

Stop The Negative Self-Talk

Would you talk to someone you cared about the same way that you talk to yourself? I doubt it, and if you did, you likely wouldn’t have that person in your life for long. I hear people demean themselves every day. It has become a habit for them, a bad habit. It’s like smoking, but worse.

Your Words Matter

What you say to yourself about yourself has an impact. After all, a belief is a thought that you keep on thinking. Therefore, if you are consistent in negative self-talk, you are well on your way to inventing a person who reflects your inner thoughts. I am guessing that the overweight, stupid, lousy luck magnet, life isn’t fair, no one will ever love me beast you have
conjured up in your mind is not the person you are nor who you want to be.

Love Yourself

The way I see it, negative self-talk is a cop-out. It is an excuse to show up small and for not taking full responsibility for your life. Condescending conversations with yourself don’t serve you, they limit you and prevent you from creating an experience that you love.  What we say matters. It makes a difference in how we behave. Bashing our authenticity is not funny, it’s fatiguing. Every day, all day long you have a choice. You get to decide the meaning that you are going to give to everything in your life. I invite you to choose downstream thoughts. There are ease and flow to going