What Do I Say?

What Do I Say?

My friend’s friend is dying.  She is in hospice care and has only days to live.  Maybe a week or two at best.  My friend called me for advice.  Her question was, “What do I say to my dying friend?”  My answer was this:

“Tell your friend you love her.  Tell her that she matters.  Talk about the good times you have shared as friends.  Don’t be afraid to laugh.  Humor has a way of easing the pain.  Give her permission to go when she is ready and let her know that you will be okay without her.  She wants you to be.  And, most importantly, be yourself.”  We talked for a bit longer and then I asked my friend, “What do you want me to say to you when you are on your deathbed?”  It’s a serious question and I meant it.  And guess what?  She told me.  She told me what she wanted me to say to her in her final hours.  We laughed and shed a tear or two.  I will honor her wishes and I am glad that I know.  I now know what she wants to hear from me.  I am relieved and I think she feels better too.

Ask The Question

Here is what I learned from this conversation with my friend.  I learned that it is important to ask the question.  So I am going to.  I am going to ask “my people”, those near and dear to me, what they want me

The Do Something New Challenge

I have a quote hanging in my home office that reads:

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

Excellent question, mostly because contemplating what that quote means (i.e., being dynamic, not static) keeps me on my toes. It challenges me to step out of my routine and explore roads less traveled. I find that each time I do something new I always learn something. For example, in my work and personal life, when I meet and interact with someone I’ve never met before — which I often do —I am rewarded with a sense of renewal and restored vitality for life. As an added bonus, these new experiences inevitably lead to even more adventures.

In the past year I began

By |2017-03-07T15:30:22+00:00November 11th, 2016|Categories: Creativity|Tags: , |0 Comments

Become a Tourist in the Continent of Your Own Mind

Most of us have some form of bucket list in our minds involving exotic adventures to foreign lands, or scaling tall mountains and discovering new frontiers. These are all grand ventures containing potentially life-altering lessons to be garnered from such quests.

Each notch in our belt of desired accomplishment brings unique encounters, new friendships, fresh insights and unaccustomed ways of thinking to the forefront of our life’s landscape.

But as exhilarating as these voyages are, there’s often a letdown. Once the thrill of the adventure is over, do you find yourself turning back into to the

By |2017-03-07T15:30:22+00:00July 29th, 2016|Categories: Thoughts from the Barn|Tags: , , , |0 Comments