conquer fear

Take A Road Trip

The Road Trip

This road trip is just what the doctor ordered.  Last weekend three of my pals and I set out for a journey to a house concert in Cambria, California.  We left Rancho Santa Fe, California at 4:30 am so that we could avoid heavy traffic through Los Angeles.  There is not an ideal time to make ones way through LA, but our strategy paid off.  We had a twenty-minute delay as a result of an accident, but for the most part it was smooth sailing.  We arrived in Santa Barbara at 8:30 a.m.  We stopped by the Four Season’s Biltmore Hotel which overlooks the stunning Butterfly Beach.  The hotel is tucked between the Pacific Ocean and the Santa Ynez Mountains.  Opened in 1927 the iconic Restort is made up of secluded courtyards and Spanish Colonial villas and bungalows.  Everywhere you look is eye candy for the soul.  We saw the dolphins gracefully leaping in and out of the water as they did their morning feeding close to the shore.

San Ysidro Ranch

Next up we drove a few short miles to the San Ysidro Ranch.  Nestled in the Montecito foothills in the middle of wine country, the ranch is a tranquil destination for travelers.  Myth and history mingle in the lush garden where Vivien Leigh and Sir Laurence Olivier exchanged vows; in the setting of John and Jackie Kennedy’s honeymoon retreat.  It is such a special and historical treasure.  The

Words Of Wisdom

An Interview With God

I was cleaning up my desktop on my computer the other day.  No easy task.  If you saw my desktop, you would know why.  In the process of exercising my best efforts of tidiness and organization, I came across a document that I had titled, What surprises you most? I had no idea where I found this in the first place so, in an effort not to plagiarize words; I did some research.  Here is what I found out.  The actual author of these words is a gentleman named Jim Brown.  Mr. Brown is no longer with us as he died in 2002, but his original work lives on.  Here it is:

I dreamed I had an interview with God.

“So you would like to interview me?” God asked.  “If you have the time”, I said…God smiled.

“My time is eternity, … what questions do you have in mind for me?”
“What surprises you most about humankind?”

God answered.

“That they get bored with childhood, they rush to grow up and then long to be children again.”

“That they lose their health to make money and then lose their money to restore their health.”

“That by thinking anxiously about the future, that they forget the present, such that they live neither in the present or the future.”

“That they live as if they will never die and die as if they had never lived.”

God’s hand took mine and we were silent for a while.  And then I asked.
“As a parent, what are some of life’s lessons

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Tony Robbins and Living in a Beautiful State of Mind

My life changed the day that I made FEAR my friend. My biggest fear has always been related to money, you know the ugly and nagging monster of not enough. I grew up on a farm in Northeastern Colorado, an upbringing that I will always treasure. We were poor, (yet rich in so many ways) so poor that I can still remember days when my parents would not eat so that my brothers and I could have something to eat. When I reflect back on those days I realize that my young head didn’t know we were poor, but my young heart did. I did not want to fall prey to the human conditioning of not enough, but I didn’t know how to NOT be poor. Over time I have managed to create and keep my financial world in good order, but fear does raise its ugly head now and then.

In the Lines In The Sand class that I teach, I share a philosophy that I have developed over the years. I call it “keep your ass in the saddle”. This means to stay present and not focus on the past or the future. The only power you have is in the now, right here, right now. Wandering off into the weeds of your past or future oftentimes gives rise to havoc and poor choices. Dwelling in the past keeps you stuck on thoughts and emotions that do not serve you.   Getting too far out in front of yourself thinking

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