appreciate

What Do I Say?

What Do I Say?

My friend’s friend is dying.  She is in hospice care and has only days to live.  Maybe a week or two at best.  My friend called me for advice.  Her question was, “What do I say to my dying friend?”  My answer was this:

“Tell your friend you love her.  Tell her that she matters.  Talk about the good times you have shared as friends.  Don’t be afraid to laugh.  Humor has a way of easing the pain.  Give her permission to go when she is ready and let her know that you will be okay without her.  She wants you to be.  And, most importantly, be yourself.”  We talked for a bit longer and then I asked my friend, “What do you want me to say to you when you are on your deathbed?”  It’s a serious question and I meant it.  And guess what?  She told me.  She told me what she wanted me to say to her in her final hours.  We laughed and shed a tear or two.  I will honor her wishes and I am glad that I know.  I now know what she wants to hear from me.  I am relieved and I think she feels better too.

Ask The Question

Here is what I learned from this conversation with my friend.  I learned that it is important to ask the question.  So I am going to.  I am going to ask “my people”, those near and dear to me, what they want me

Take A Road Trip

The Road Trip

This road trip is just what the doctor ordered.  Last weekend three of my pals and I set out for a journey to a house concert in Cambria, California.  We left Rancho Santa Fe, California at 4:30 am so that we could avoid heavy traffic through Los Angeles.  There is not an ideal time to make ones way through LA, but our strategy paid off.  We had a twenty-minute delay as a result of an accident, but for the most part it was smooth sailing.  We arrived in Santa Barbara at 8:30 a.m.  We stopped by the Four Season’s Biltmore Hotel which overlooks the stunning Butterfly Beach.  The hotel is tucked between the Pacific Ocean and the Santa Ynez Mountains.  Opened in 1927 the iconic Restort is made up of secluded courtyards and Spanish Colonial villas and bungalows.  Everywhere you look is eye candy for the soul.  We saw the dolphins gracefully leaping in and out of the water as they did their morning feeding close to the shore.

San Ysidro Ranch

Next up we drove a few short miles to the San Ysidro Ranch.  Nestled in the Montecito foothills in the middle of wine country, the ranch is a tranquil destination for travelers.  Myth and history mingle in the lush garden where Vivien Leigh and Sir Laurence Olivier exchanged vows; in the setting of John and Jackie Kennedy’s honeymoon retreat.  It is such a special and historical treasure.  The

The Badass & The Buddha

The Badass & The Buddha

The Badass & The Buddha was developed to create a community where we can have real and relevant conversations about topics that we will have the opportunity to encounter at some point in our lives.  We want this to be a safe place where participants can come to get support and share inspiration.

Episode 5

In today’s episode my pal, Alexis Williams is doing a Q&A session with me about my upcoming book that will be coming out at the end of the summer.  Have a listen.  Alexis asks me great questions that can help you in your own life.  The title of the book is Keep Your Ass In The Saddle: How a Farm, a Fire, and Failure Led Me To Freedom.

Please let us know what topics you are interested in discussing in the future and we will make it happen.

https://youtu.be/jIjwnyfHOm0 Stay true and be you —

Annie Create a Life You Love
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What Do You Want More Of In Your Life?

What Is Missing In Your Life?

I was at my barn, one of my favorite spots to “be” the other day, surrounded by my two horses and my sweet Australian Shepherd, 2Sox.  The horses were contently eating, and 2Sox was busy appreciating the smells of the early morning.  I was scooping horse shit into my Gator and carting it off to the compost pile; it’s one of my favorite things to “do.”   Why?  Because I am outside in nature doing a chore that doesn’t require much talent, and it is when I have some of my best thoughts.   I stood there for a minute, and I pinched myself, literally as I often do and said out loud, “I am so grateful to be here and have this wonderful property.”  And then I thought, I wonder what most people want out of their life.  Later that day I did what I always do when I am curious about something, I Googled it.  The first thing that popped up was an article by Kathy Caprino titled, The Top 10 Things People Want In Life But Can’t Seem To Get.  It was the “can’t seem to get” part that caught my attention.

Caprino surveyed 700 people.  The key question the survey probed was:  If you could say in one word what you want more of in life, what would it be?  What intrigued the author most is that it is becoming more and more obvious that the things we humans desperately long for today are

Habit 10: We Are Thankful

We Are Thankful

Gratitude and being thankful is talked about a lot, but I wonder how many people spend focused time each day in gratitude?  It can be easy to get caught up in the dynamics of a day.  One can get sucked into the chaos so quickly and then if we are not careful we can spiral into overwhelm and stress.  Think about it.  The mere fact that we wake up each morning with a beating heart, breathing in and out without thinking, with a roof over our head, and electricity and running water.  That’s just a start.  There is so much.  Be present enough to notice and then be thankful.  Allow your brief time on this planet to be filled with goodness, share that goodness, and no matter what, be thankful. Stay true and be you —

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Day 2 Intentional Living: Appreciate Yourself and Others

Appreciation

We get so wrapped up in our days and routines that we often forget to stop and appreciate others.  We can take the service that people provide us for granted.  Today is all about appreciation. In order to appreciate someone or something, you have to be present. So wherever you are today and whoever you are with, be completely there with them. No phones, no iPads, no distractions. Just you and them.

Acts of Appreciation

Here are a few things you can do to show others appreciation:

  1.  Tape “Thank You” to the outside of your trash cans so the trash person feels appreciation when they pick up your trash.
  2.  Ask the checkout person at the stores you shop at what their name is and then thank them for helping you using their name.
  3.  As a family, go around the table and take turns telling each other what you appreciate about them.
  4.  Send someone you love flowers, just because.
  5.  Make a friend their favorite meal.
  6.  Write an appreciation note and send it.
  7.  Donate your used books, clothes, and household items you no longer use.
  8.  Call someone you know who is in a rough patch and let them know you appreciate them.
  9.  Open a door for someone.
  10.  Look people in the eyes and say hello.

Stay true and be you —

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