Thoughts from the Barn

Consider Death To Be Your Best Teacher

Living with Presence

In this discussion, I ask that you consider that death is our best teacher in life. Stick with me on this…it is not as morbid as it might sound. Watch the video and then take the “What If” challenge. It might just change your life. Let me know what you think of this conversation in the comments and tell me what topics you would like to discuss in future episodes.

Suggested Reading

The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer

https://youtu.be/EXCVC0pqxIk Stay true and be you —

Annie Create a Life You Love
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Week 1 – The Fourth Quarter

Week 1:

Week 1 of The Fourth Quarter is now under our belt.  Here is a summary.

Day 1:  Introduction and framework

Declare a Personal Vision:  This is a statement of what you desire for yourself as you step into 2020.  What do you want your life to feel like and look like in the New Year?  Be specific about this.  For example:  I will have achieved my optimal health and fitness goals by committing to 30 minutes of physical activity each day and an eating plan that is plant based.  And, I will inspire those around me to achieve their optimal health and fitness goals.

Declare a Theme:  What will your theme for the month be?  Mine is to learn.  This allows me to learn something new each day.  I get to reserach topics that I don’t know about and then share them with others.  It is challenging and stimulating and others get to share in my learning.  What will your theme be?

Declare you Top 3 Priorities:  Each day you will decide what three things are important for you to get done that day.  List these and then take the steps to making sure they get done.  Doing this will allow you to accomplish what needs to be done and be productive.  It is time to get things that you have been procastinating done.

Say Thank You:  Each day you will list at least three things that you are grateful for in your day.  Recognizing and acknowledging all that you have in your life

The Fourth Quarter 2019

You’re Invited

YOU’RE INVITED! to The Fourth Quarter

How about showing up on January 1, 2020, as your best self?
Just like in sports, the fourth quarter matters in the game of life.
Right out of the playbook, here are a few things we will accomplish:

The Daily 3: Top three priorities for the day
The Create/Cut commitment: What habit(s) are you committed to creating and which one(s) are you committed to cutting?
Morning/Evening Rituals: Decide to do ONE thing each morning and each evening to enhance your well-being
Monthly Theme: What is your focus for each month?
And a bunch more…

Join me for The Fourth Quarter and play all out for the win.
It is easy to sign up. Go to http://meetmeatthebarn.com/the-fourth-quarter/ and input your email address. Then go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/520101252090718/ and join the private Facebook Group.

Starting October 1, 2019, we will touch base each day and stand shoulder-to-shoulder with each other as we embark on an inspiring journey to 2020.
Please invite your family and friends to be a part of this.

Stay true and be you —

Annie Create a Life You Love
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What Do I Say?

What Do I Say?

My friend’s friend is dying.  She is in hospice care and has only days to live.  Maybe a week or two at best.  My friend called me for advice.  Her question was, “What do I say to my dying friend?”  My answer was this:

“Tell your friend you love her.  Tell her that she matters.  Talk about the good times you have shared as friends.  Don’t be afraid to laugh.  Humor has a way of easing the pain.  Give her permission to go when she is ready and let her know that you will be okay without her.  She wants you to be.  And, most importantly, be yourself.”  We talked for a bit longer and then I asked my friend, “What do you want me to say to you when you are on your deathbed?”  It’s a serious question and I meant it.  And guess what?  She told me.  She told me what she wanted me to say to her in her final hours.  We laughed and shed a tear or two.  I will honor her wishes and I am glad that I know.  I now know what she wants to hear from me.  I am relieved and I think she feels better too.

Ask The Question

Here is what I learned from this conversation with my friend.  I learned that it is important to ask the question.  So I am going to.  I am going to ask “my people”, those near and dear to me, what they want me

Take A Road Trip

The Road Trip

This road trip is just what the doctor ordered.  Last weekend three of my pals and I set out for a journey to a house concert in Cambria, California.  We left Rancho Santa Fe, California at 4:30 am so that we could avoid heavy traffic through Los Angeles.  There is not an ideal time to make ones way through LA, but our strategy paid off.  We had a twenty-minute delay as a result of an accident, but for the most part it was smooth sailing.  We arrived in Santa Barbara at 8:30 a.m.  We stopped by the Four Season’s Biltmore Hotel which overlooks the stunning Butterfly Beach.  The hotel is tucked between the Pacific Ocean and the Santa Ynez Mountains.  Opened in 1927 the iconic Restort is made up of secluded courtyards and Spanish Colonial villas and bungalows.  Everywhere you look is eye candy for the soul.  We saw the dolphins gracefully leaping in and out of the water as they did their morning feeding close to the shore.

San Ysidro Ranch

Next up we drove a few short miles to the San Ysidro Ranch.  Nestled in the Montecito foothills in the middle of wine country, the ranch is a tranquil destination for travelers.  Myth and history mingle in the lush garden where Vivien Leigh and Sir Laurence Olivier exchanged vows; in the setting of John and Jackie Kennedy’s honeymoon retreat.  It is such a special and historical treasure.  The

Celebrated Choices

How To Make Good Choices

You have probably made so good choices in your life and some not so good choices along the way.  What is the best way to make sure you are making choices that benefit you?  Well, I have come up with a checklist.  It will help you to stay aligned with your values and to live with integrity.

The Checklist

Before making your next decision have a look at these questions and allow them to be a guidepost for you.

  1.  Will this choice bring me peace?
  2. Will this choice bring harm to me or others?
  3. Is this choice supportive of my health and well-being?
  4. Will this choice make me proud?
  5. Is this choice somthing I want or that I need?
  6. Will this choice bring me short-term gratification with long-term regret?
  7. Am I honoring and trusting my gut by making this choice?
  8. Will this choice help me to continue to grow and evolve as a person?
  9. Am I making this choice because I know it is right for me or am I making this choice because I think it is what others want me to do?
  10. Have I been patient about making this choice or am I rushing into it?
  11. Will the consequences of this choice be positive for me?
  12. Will this choice result be good for all the people that I have a relationship with?  Spouse/partner, children, friend, business partner, co-worker, family member?
  13. Does this choice allow me to be my authentic self?
  14. Am I making this choice from

What Are Your Seven Words?

Seven Words

Khalil Gibran once said that people would never understand one another unless language is reduced to seven words.  What would your seven words be?

Before I share my seven words with you, I want to tell you a bit about Khalil Gibran.  He was born in Lebanon in 1883 and died in New York City at the age of 48 from cirrhosis of the liver due to severe alcoholism.  Gibran is the third best-selling poet of all time, behind Shakespeare and Laozi.  His best-known work is The Prophet, a book composed of twenty-six essays.  Since first being published in 1923, The Prophet has never been out of print.  If you haven’t read the book, do.  If you have read it, reread it.

A Foundation to Build On

As I was pondering this question, I remembered Tony Robbins Six Human Needs.  Tony identified six basic human needs with the belief that everyone is, or can be motivated by fulfilling these needs.

Here they are:

Need 1:  Certainty/Comfort

Need 2:  Uncertainty/Variety

Need 3:  Significance

Need 4:  Love & Connection

Need 5:  Growth

Need 6:  Contribution

Every day we are reflexively determined to meet these needs.  When these requirements are met at a high level, our degree satisfaction and fulfillment in our lives is abundant.  If these needs are met at a low level, we will experience life as being unsatisfactory and disappointing.  I think that we can agree that Tony’s philosophy of what lies at the root of human aspiration and the extent to which these needs are met make a difference

What Do You Want More Of In Your Life?

What Is Missing In Your Life?

I was at my barn, one of my favorite spots to “be” the other day, surrounded by my two horses and my sweet Australian Shepherd, 2Sox.  The horses were contently eating, and 2Sox was busy appreciating the smells of the early morning.  I was scooping horse shit into my Gator and carting it off to the compost pile; it’s one of my favorite things to “do.”   Why?  Because I am outside in nature doing a chore that doesn’t require much talent, and it is when I have some of my best thoughts.   I stood there for a minute, and I pinched myself, literally as I often do and said out loud, “I am so grateful to be here and have this wonderful property.”  And then I thought, I wonder what most people want out of their life.  Later that day I did what I always do when I am curious about something, I Googled it.  The first thing that popped up was an article by Kathy Caprino titled, The Top 10 Things People Want In Life But Can’t Seem To Get.  It was the “can’t seem to get” part that caught my attention.

Caprino surveyed 700 people.  The key question the survey probed was:  If you could say in one word what you want more of in life, what would it be?  What intrigued the author most is that it is becoming more and more obvious that the things we humans desperately long for today are

What Do Moms Really Want for Mother’s Day? The Top 10 Best Gifts all Mother’s Would Love Copy

Mother’s Day was proclaimed a national holiday in 1914 when Woodrow Wilson signed a declaration designating the second Sunday in May as a day to honor mothers.  Since then, there is no doubt that moms across America have experienced everything from breakfast in bed featuring burnt toast and cold coffee to a measly Mother’s Day card purchased the night before at 7-Eleven.

I have three boys; 2Sox, Chief, and Winston.  That’s right, the closest I have come to motherhood is my current brood of a really smart Australian Shepherd and two retired ranch horses so I was curious about what moms really want for Mother’s Day.  I did some research and after compiling the data I have come up with this top ten list:

  1. A Day All To Herself.  As much as moms love being moms, they also crave a day all to themselves.  That’s right, simply a day off to do whatever she wants.  No cooking, no cleaning, no car-pooling or any other mom duties; nothing, zero, zilch, none.  So, if you are looking for a treasured gift for mom, here you go.  If you want to encourage mom to carve out some quiet time for herself each day, consider a “Be” – Attitudes Kit.
  2. Sleep. It is no secret that most moms are sleep deprived so there should be no astonishment over the fact that she wants to sleep, sleep, sleep.  So, let her!  All day if she wants.  And, this might include an afternoon
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Do You Know The 4 Agreements?

What Are The 4 Agreements?

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote The Four Agreements in 1997.  Since that time it has sold 7.2 million copies and has been translated into 40 languages.  That’s big.  It’s a lot.  I understand why.  I read the book when it first came out and I have read it on a yearly bases since.  This past week I revisited the wisdom of this powerful book.  I needed some reminders.  Here is a summary of the agreements from the research I found on the internet.

The First Agreement:  Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Don’t use words that speak against who you are and most definitely do not gossip about others.  Your words are powerful so use them for inspiration, truth, and love.  I have found that it is best to use words that change a situation or a circumstance for the better.  If not, stay quiet and listen.

The Second Agreement:  Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing that others do is because of you.  What someone else says or does is a projection of their own reality.  If you want to save yourself from being the victim of needless suffering, don’t plug into the opinions and actions of others.  And, sometimes things just simply are not about you!  I have always said, what others think of me is none of my business.

The Third Agreement:  Don’t Make Assumptions

Have the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can