Relationships

Going To A Meeting

Be Brief, Be Brilliant, Be Gone

Most of us have attended a meeting of some sort.  You know the ones where you sit around a table with a handful or more of other people and discuss a topic, situation, or challenge.  If you are a business person, it is likely that you spend 35% to 50% of your time in meetings.  Current estimates indicate that more than $37 billion per year gets spent on unproductive meetings.  And, there are more than 25 million meetings per day in the United States.  I am not a big fan of meetings; never have been, never will be.  My meeting mantra is:  Be Brief, Be Brilliant, and Be Gone.

Life Is A Series Of Meetings

However, I do like the metaphor of ‘going to a meeting’ as a simple life hack.  What do I mean by this?  Let’s have a look.  The way I see it, we are ‘going to meetings’ all day long.  We get up in the morning and meet our family before everyone goes their separate way for the day.  We get in our car and join all the others on the highways and byways as we travel to and from places.  We go to family reunions, and weddings, and funerals.  We shop in stores and dine in restaurants and go to church with other people.  We cross the street and ride the elevator and sit on an airplane with other humans doing this thing called life.

Set The Tone For Your Gathering

Since we have

It’s Time To Do Some Gardening In Your Life

Spring Gardening

I have spent the last several weeks working in my gardens.  My activities include pulling weeds, pruning, raking, planting, fertilizing, watering and admiring.  One of the first things I did as I started on this journey of refreshing my little plot of land was to cut back all of my rose bushes.  And let me tell you, I went to town on them.  I gave them a proper trimming.  Yesterday as I was doing some watering I noticed that every single one of these rose bushes had beautifully exploded with new growth.  The leaves are a deep green, and there are scores of buds that will soon break out into a stunning display of exquisiteness.

Gardening can be challenging.  However, the results of a well-tended yard no matter the size, are gratifying.  All five senses can be satisfied with the fruits of our labor.  I find it a valuable way to spend time.  I also believe that many domains of our life can benefit from some intentional gardening.  Let’s have a look.

Relationship

Whether you have chosen marriage, a life partner, or a significant other, relationships can be a beautiful dance through life with a loved one, and they can also be challenging and in some cases unhealthy.  Regardless of your current relationship status, I will remind you that it is not anyone’s responsibility to make you happy except yourself.  So, if you are in a relationship or seeking to enter into one to be satisfied, don’t do it.  It doesn’t work

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Learn Why Handwritten Letters Make A Powerful Impact

Handwritten Letters Get Opened First

How long has it been since you wrote handwritten letters to someone you know?  Not an email, not a text, and not a 140 character tweet that rarely, if ever holds context as a respected consideration.  I can’t think of anyone who doesn’t love to receive a handwritten letter in the mail.  Admit it, when you receive a hand-addressed envelope in the mail with a real stamp in the upper right-hand corner a sense of intrigue, wonder and surprise come over you.  It is the first piece of mail in the pile that you open, excited to discover its contents.  Joy fills your heart and a smile finds its way to your face.  You read it over and over and appreciate that someone took the time and made the effort to connect with you in such a special way.  There is magic in those words written in longhand.

Who doesn’t wish to receive a handwritten note in the mail?  This is exactly why one of the exercises in the Lines In The Sand Class I teach is to write four different letters.  Over the next few weeks, I will share the kind of letters that the participants in the course write and I invite you to join us on this journey.  The first letter is a Thank You note.  Think of someone who you would like to get in touch with and express your appreciation to them.  It might be one of your teachers from the past,

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I Want To Know What Love Is: How to Develop Self-Respect and Self-Love

One of the topics that we discuss in the Lines In The Sand course is the importance of self-respect and self-love.  I have come to know that the best way to honor and love others is to honor and love yourself first.  This weekend as I was at the barn pulling weeds and raking leaves, (yes, a girl has to keep her land in good order) a song that I haven’t heard in years came on the radio.  You know the song, it is I Want To Know What Love Is by Foreigner.  It was the band’s all-time mega hit written by the guitarist, Mick Jones.

Something Bigger Than Myself

I have always liked the song and since it hadn’t come across my music listening plate for so long I heeded the words with precise attention.  There is something about the rugged grittiness of the lyrics that appeal to my earthy appreciation of something bigger than myself.  As I listened to the song I noticed that I was hearing the words with a new perspective.  I heard it as a conversation with myself — regarding self-love, or my own love for me.  These are the course lyrics: “Let’s talk about love. I wanna know what love is, the love that you feel inside. I want you to show me, and I’m feeling so much love. I wanna feel what love is, no, you can’t just hide.  I know you can show me.” For me, epiphanies have always been striking occurrences that happen

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Relationship with Yourself

Note to self, yes, you.  The pretty one.  The one with the crooked smile and infectious laugh.  You can be happy.  Choose it.  Love your body and take good care of it, it is the only one you have.  Stop comparing yourself to “them”.  Who are they anyway?  Embrace your quirks, your cracks and especially your flaws.  Those things make you, you.  Be gracious.  With yourself first and then with all the others.  Welcome the struggles, without them life would be less exciting and you wouldn’t be so strong.  Be yourself, everyone else is taken.  Do something you love to do; everyday.  Surround yourself with people who honor you. 

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Relationships with Your Parents

In the Lines In The Sand Class that I teach I request that the participants find and live their truth.  This means to show up fearless and be who you really are;  your true essence.  As we continue to dive into the relationship series I am inviting you to do the same thing.  For now, let’s stick to our relationship with our parent(s).  How happy and healthy is your connection with the folks?  Are you being authentic in your bond with them or are you playing a part, tolerating the situation and neglecting your truest self?  Look at your relationship with them as a garden.  Does it need to be weeded, fertilized, dug up and replanted, thinned out, or completely torn down?

This is a process and may take some time.  For example, for several years prior to George’s (that was my dad’s name) death I rarely, practically never,  had any communication with him.  The reason doesn’t matter as it is water under the bridge at this point.  When he died, I was involved with my two brothers in making funeral and burial arrangements.   Together we respectfully created a wonderful celebration in his honor.  That was nine years ago.  It wasn’t until Father’s Day last year that I had given much thought to George’s passing and I had seldom reflected back on my relationship with him over the years.  However on the morning of Father’s Day 2015 as I was walking to my barn to feed my horses,  George came to

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Your Health in Relationships

We are starting a series of blog post on “Relationships”.  This is a topic that is at the top of discussion in my live Lines In The Sand classes.  This will be the first blog in a series …

I consistently hear from participants in my live classes stories of childhood dysfunctional relationships with one or both parents.  Who didn’t grow up in a dysfunctional home!  For those who feel they escaped unhealthy interaction within their childhood families, good for you, count your blessings.  Seriously.  But those who do stake a claim to dysfunction have toted that baggage around with them their entire lives as if they will win an Oscar for best actor in a film called Drowning in Drama

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