Habit 7: Surround Yourself With Positive People
Surround Yourself With Positive People
Here are some thoughts by Shawn Lim regarding this habit
Jim Rohn was right when he famously said:
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
We simply become like the people we surround ourselves with most of the time.
Think about it, if you want to start saving by cutting down your expenses, but if you mix with people who are not thrifty and who simply spend on things, highly likely, you will not reach your goal.
For instance, when you decided to cut down your expenses on coffees, and when you go out with a bunch of friends, and all of them wanted to go to Starbucks for a drink and a cake, what will you do?
Of course, you follow. And will you just sit in Starbucks and ordered nothing? Will you just sit there watching your friends eating and drinking and all you do is talking to them?
Not likely. Chances are, you’re going to buy yourself a cup of coffee too. So that you look “fit in”, right?
Please understand that this is just an example of how the people you surround with can influence your thinking and decision.
What if everyone you surround yourself with is using the latest smartphone? What if they are all smokers?
Can you see how this can influence and impact your life?
Therefore, if you want to be successful and always stay positive, surround yourself with people who are positive and successful.
Here are
Habit 6: Failure Is Part Of Success
Habit 6 of Joyful, Successful, and Content People:
We know that failure is part of our success. If you are not willing to fail, then you likely won’t experience success to any significant degree. There is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about failing. It is a key element to success. Oh, and by the way, show me someone who hasn’t made a mistake in their life or failed at something…I wouldn’t want to be them!
A Failure Lab
A friend of mine has suggested the idea of a failure lab. What does that mean? Well, here is an example. If all the scientist working on curing disease would gather together and share all of their failures, it would speed up the process because others would not be repeating experiments that have previously failed. We have become conditioned that failure is a bad thing when in reality it is all the failures in our lives that ultimately lead to our success.
Embrace Failure
Let’s agree to embrace failure. If this is where our winning comes from, why not celebrate each ‘so-called’ failure as a stepping stone to our success? I have never learned as much when things are going well in my life as when there are some struggle and a few fails.
Have a look at my Facebook post on failure!
https://www.facebook.com/annie.fonte/videos/10161364149725529/ Stay true and be you —
Annie Create a Life You Love
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Habit 5: They Embrace Fear
Embracing Fear
As counter-intuitive as it sounds, embracing fear is a habit of highly joyful, successful, and content people. This article by Tess Marshall gives 11 Tips to Embrace Your Fear. It is a good read. Have a look.
Everyone has fear. Some of us choose to ignore it, deny it and stay stuck in it. Others learn to embrace fear, befriend it and move beyond it.
You might envy people who are reaching their goals and living their dreams. You might ask, “Why not me?” “When is it my turn?”
The difference between you and the people who succeed and the people you admire is they are willing to work and overcome their fears in order to get where they want to be.
They are willing to fail, take risks and work long hours. They are willing to face rejection and invest their energy and money. They are willing to do what it takes.
Don’t allow your fear to grip you body, mind and spirit. Don’ allow your fear to wage a fight with you and your dreams.
You can learn to shrink your fear and build your confidence and courage.
The next time fear leaves you in a paralyzing state try these exercises.
1. Track your fears
Write down your fears in your journal. Next to each fear, write down it’s origin. Write down how it has controlled you in the past?
Set aside time and reflect on what you’ve written. Don’t judge your fear. Your goal is to understand it and give it space. Fear loses its hold when
Habit 4: They Read
Habit 4: They Read
The benefits of reading are vast. Have a look at Lana Winter-Herbert’s article on Why You Should Read Every Day
When was the last time you read a book or a substantial magazine article? Do your daily reading habits center around tweets, Facebook updates, or the directions on your instant oatmeal packet?
If you’re one of the countless people who doesn’t make a habit of reading regularly, you might be missing out.
Reading has a significant number of benefits, and here’re ten benefits of reading:
1. Mental Stimulation
Studies have shown that staying mentally stimulated can slow the progress of (or possibly even prevent) Alzheimer’s and Dementia,[1] since keeping your brain active and engaged prevents it from losing power.
Just like any other muscle in the body, the brain requires exercise to keep it strong and healthy, so the phrase “use it or lose it” is particularly apt when it comes to your mind. Doing puzzles and playing games such as chess have also been found to be helpful with cognitive stimulation.[2]
2. Stress Reduction
No matter how much stress you have at work, in your relationships, or countless other issues faced in daily life, it all just slips away when you lose yourself in a great story. A well-written novel can transport you to other realms, while an engaging article will distract you and keep you in the present moment, letting tensions drain away and allowing you to relax.
3. Knowledge
Everything you read fills your head with new
Habit 3: Meditate
Habit 3: Meditation
There are so many benefits that come as a result of meditation. This article by Jonni Pollard points out 20 reasons to meditate. Have a look.
There are literally hundreds of commonly experienced and scientifically validated benefits of meditation. We’ve compiled the top twenty that will make you want to start meditating right now.
We’ve broken them up into two main categories – the physical health benefits and the psychological benefits.
Physical health benefits of meditation
- Meditation literally grows your brain… both in volume and thickness. This doesn’t just make you smarter; it increases your memory, attention, self-awareness, and self-control alongside a whole list of other desirable qualities.
- Meditation increases blood flow to your brain… the brain can’t function without a strong steady flow of blood to it. The stronger and steadier the flow, the better the brain functions.
- Meditation reduces cortisol production, a stress-induced hormone that suppresses the immune system and can make you feel anxious nervous and unsettled for no real reason (other than having too much cortisol in your system).
- Meditation reduces blood pressure and heart rate, which alleviates unnecessary pressure on your heart and arteries.
- Meditation increases neuroplasticity. This is the brain’s ability to organize itself, adapt to demands and enables you to become more efficient in the learning process.
- Meditation increases the production of good neurotransmitters including serotonin and dopamine, both of which play a huge role in controlling our moods. It’s understood that low levels of serotonin cause depression.
- Meditation triggers the parasympathetic nervous system, which enables us to rest and recover from
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Habit 2: They Talk To Themselves In The Mirror
Talk To Yourself In The Mirror
Joyful, triumphant, and content people make it a frequent practice to talk to themselves in the mirror. Are they crazy? No. Research has shown that there are many valuable benefits of talking to yourself in the mirror. So what do they say? Well here are seven things that people who experience more joy, success, and contentment in their living say to themselves:
1. There are no mistakes. Only lessons.
These folks have come to know that making mistakes is part of life. Their viewpoint is that errors are their pathway to learning and success. Also, these folks are more content in their lives because they accept the fact that mistakes are often gifts. They take things in stride and don’t get bogged down in negative thoughts or self-talk.
2. They are clear about why they started a project or adventure.
They remind themselves often of why they started down a path to begin with, whether it is starting a business, writing a book, entering into a relationship, or planning a trip. They consistently check in with their decision to commit in the first place. They also enjoy the growth that comes along with the project or adventure.
3. They encourage themselves to get it right before they start.
It is much easier to get it right to begin with than it is to right the ship after it has sailed. They spend the time to think through the details on the front end of a decision. They don’t rush to a result.
Habits of Highly Joyful, Successful, and Content People
Keeping A Journal
Why keep a journal? Well, it is one of the twenty-one habits of highly joyful, successful, and content people. I have done the reserch and I want to share with you these habits. The first is that they keep a journal. There are many good and useful reasons to start this daily practice and embrace the habit. Darius Foroux explains it better that I so I am sharing his blog post here. You can learn more about Darius at www.dariusforoux.com
Read This If You Want To Keep A Journal But Don’t Know How
A journal is the best self-awareness tool there is.
Just open any given site that publishes articles on personal growth, and you will find at least one article that says: Why Keeping A Journal Will Change Your Life.
Please stop it for goodness sake. We know it by now!
When I talk to friends, or when I coach people, I always ask: “Do you keep a journal?”
This probably won’t surprise you, but the answer is almost always “No.”
And the funny thing is that everyone knows that they should keep one. But should is not enough. There are a lot of things that we should do—but we don’t do them.
Why? We have no idea HOW to do them.
It’s just like when you were in
A Change of Seasons
Seasons
“Gardening is not outcome-oriented. A successful harvest is not the end of a gardener’s existence, but only a phase of it. As any gardener knows, the vitality of a garden does not end with a harvest. It simply takes another form. Gardens do not ‘die’ in the winter but quietly prepare for another season.”
This quote rings true to me as we are transitioning from summer to fall. Years ago my favorite time of the year was summer. I enjoyed the long days and warmth from the sun. I grew up on a farm and the extra hours of sunlight allowed us to complete the many tasks that come along with tending to the land and gathering the fruits of our labor during harvest time. Our work days were purposeful and focused. Every minute counted as we raced against time and mother nature. The harvest of farming was outcome-oriented. It is how we made money. We relied on a bountiful yield of our crops so that we could put food on the table. Some years were better than others. That’s how it goes with farming. You are not guaranteed a certain amount of money at the end of the day or week or month or year.
The seasons served a purpose. I have come to recognize this in life as well. We need a reprieve from the long hard days of summer. Deep work demands deep restoration. As we are evolving from one season to the next, I invite you to listen
The Badass Soul-Seeking Warrior Podcast Series, Episode : Adrian Buckaroogirl Brannan
Adrian Buckaroogirl Brannan
Adrian “Buckaroogirl” is a 20 something firecracker who is equally at home in the branding pen, ranch bronc or stage, who burst onto the western music scene at just 14 years old.
When she began sharing her songs of Nevada and cowboy’in as seen through the eyes of a young woman, the cowboy world hadn’t seen many girls of her caliber performing. But her old soul lyrics and powerful voice related to young cowboys and cowgirls, buckaroos and cowpunchers of the old west alike.
As a student majoring in International Relations and languages, Adrian began taking her time off the road to connect with young women her age through her weekly “Dear Cowgirl” posts on social media and blog. These open letters/poems to women around the world have sparked a massive following for their honest and upfront manner, and continued openness about Adrian’s experiences as a domestic violence survivor.
Western Horseman Magazine has called her the “buckaroo’s Taylor Swift” and have chosen her song, The Will James Days, from her first CD, Highway 80, as one of the 13 Best Western Songs of All Times. Also from Highway 80, her songs, Old Time Vaquero and Praise Him for the Pequaps have found their way into multiple western videos.
Adrian’s second CD, Boots, and Pearls was produced by Tom Russell who said in The Cowboy Way Magazine, “I heard the clear potential. I
The Willingness Challenge
Willingness
For the entire month of August, I provided you with a daily willingness video. Here is a list of the willingness challenges and the links to the video. Enjoy!
Day 2: Are You Willing to Surrender?
Day 3: Are You Willing to Stop Doing Things That Keep You From Creating A Life You Love?
Day 4: Are You Willing to “Be” In The Moment?
Day 6: Are You Willing To Sit Still Each Day?
Day 7: Are You Willing To Take Better Care Of Yourself?
Day 8: Are You Willing To Clearly Communicate What You Desire To Others?
Day 9: Are You Willing To Be In Conversation As An Honorable Participant?
Day 10: Are You Willing To Help Me?
Day 11: Are You Willing To Be Your Authentic Self?
Day 12: Are You Willing To Take The Road Less Traveled?
Day 13: Are You Willing To Have True, Useful, and Purposeful Conversations?
Day 14: Are You Willing To Ask, What Else Could This Mean?
Day 15: Are You Willing To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others?
Day 16: Are You Willing To Stop Making Sorry-Assed Excuses?
Day 17: Are You Willing To Get Some Exercise Each Day?
Day 18: Are You Willing To Get Out Of Your Routine?
Day 19: Are You Willing To Do A Bucket List Item?
Day 20: Are You Willing To Practice?
Day 21: Are You Willing To Invest In Your Badass Self?