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What Do I Say?

What Do I Say?

My friend’s friend is dying.  She is in hospice care and has only days to live.  Maybe a week or two at best.  My friend called me for advice.  Her question was, “What do I say to my dying friend?”  My answer was this:

“Tell your friend you love her.  Tell her that she matters.  Talk about the good times you have shared as friends.  Don’t be afraid to laugh.  Humor has a way of easing the pain.  Give her permission to go when she is ready and let her know that you will be okay without her.  She wants you to be.  And, most importantly, be yourself.”  We talked for a bit longer and then I asked my friend, “What do you want me to say to you when you are on your deathbed?”  It’s a serious question and I meant it.  And guess what?  She told me.  She told me what she wanted me to say to her in her final hours.  We laughed and shed a tear or two.  I will honor her wishes and I am glad that I know.  I now know what she wants to hear from me.  I am relieved and I think she feels better too.

Ask The Question

Here is what I learned from this conversation with my friend.  I learned that it is important to ask the question.  So I am going to.  I am going to ask “my people”, those near and dear to me, what they want me

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Take A Road Trip

The Road Trip

This road trip is just what the doctor ordered.  Last weekend three of my pals and I set out for a journey to a house concert in Cambria, California.  We left Rancho Santa Fe, California at 4:30 am so that we could avoid heavy traffic through Los Angeles.  There is not an ideal time to make ones way through LA, but our strategy paid off.  We had a twenty-minute delay as a result of an accident, but for the most part it was smooth sailing.  We arrived in Santa Barbara at 8:30 a.m.  We stopped by the Four Season’s Biltmore Hotel which overlooks the stunning Butterfly Beach.  The hotel is tucked between the Pacific Ocean and the Santa Ynez Mountains.  Opened in 1927 the iconic Restort is made up of secluded courtyards and Spanish Colonial villas and bungalows.  Everywhere you look is eye candy for the soul.  We saw the dolphins gracefully leaping in and out of the water as they did their morning feeding close to the shore.

San Ysidro Ranch

Next up we drove a few short miles to the San Ysidro Ranch.  Nestled in the Montecito foothills in the middle of wine country, the ranch is a tranquil destination for travelers.  Myth and history mingle in the lush garden where Vivien Leigh and Sir Laurence Olivier exchanged vows; in the setting of John and Jackie Kennedy’s honeymoon retreat.  It is such a special and historical treasure.  The

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Celebrated Choices

How To Make Good Choices

You have probably made so good choices in your life and some not so good choices along the way.  What is the best way to make sure you are making choices that benefit you?  Well, I have come up with a checklist.  It will help you to stay aligned with your values and to live with integrity.

The Checklist

Before making your next decision have a look at these questions and allow them to be a guidepost for you.

  1.  Will this choice bring me peace?
  2. Will this choice bring harm to me or others?
  3. Is this choice supportive of my health and well-being?
  4. Will this choice make me proud?
  5. Is this choice somthing I want or that I need?
  6. Will this choice bring me short-term gratification with long-term regret?
  7. Am I honoring and trusting my gut by making this choice?
  8. Will this choice help me to continue to grow and evolve as a person?
  9. Am I making this choice because I know it is right for me or am I making this choice because I think it is what others want me to do?
  10. Have I been patient about making this choice or am I rushing into it?
  11. Will the consequences of this choice be positive for me?
  12. Will this choice result be good for all the people that I have a relationship with?  Spouse/partner, children, friend, business partner, co-worker, family member?
  13. Does this choice allow me to be my authentic self?
  14. Am I making this choice from
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The Badass & The Buddha

The Badass & The Buddha

The Badass & The Buddha was developed to create a community where we can have real and relevant conversations about topics that we will have the opportunity to encounter at some point in our lives.  We want this to be a safe place where participants can come to get support and share inspiration.

Episode 5

In today’s episode my pal, Alexis Williams is doing a Q&A session with me about my upcoming book that will be coming out at the end of the summer.  Have a listen.  Alexis asks me great questions that can help you in your own life.  The title of the book is Keep Your Ass In The Saddle: How a Farm, a Fire, and Failure Led Me To Freedom.

Please let us know what topics you are interested in discussing in the future and we will make it happen.

https://youtu.be/jIjwnyfHOm0 Stay true and be you —

Annie Create a Life You Love
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What Are Your Seven Words?

Seven Words

Khalil Gibran once said that people would never understand one another unless language is reduced to seven words.  What would your seven words be?

Before I share my seven words with you, I want to tell you a bit about Khalil Gibran.  He was born in Lebanon in 1883 and died in New York City at the age of 48 from cirrhosis of the liver due to severe alcoholism.  Gibran is the third best-selling poet of all time, behind Shakespeare and Laozi.  His best-known work is The Prophet, a book composed of twenty-six essays.  Since first being published in 1923, The Prophet has never been out of print.  If you haven’t read the book, do.  If you have read it, reread it.

A Foundation to Build On

As I was pondering this question, I remembered Tony Robbins Six Human Needs.  Tony identified six basic human needs with the belief that everyone is, or can be motivated by fulfilling these needs.

Here they are:

Need 1:  Certainty/Comfort

Need 2:  Uncertainty/Variety

Need 3:  Significance

Need 4:  Love & Connection

Need 5:  Growth

Need 6:  Contribution

Every day we are reflexively determined to meet these needs.  When these requirements are met at a high level, our degree satisfaction and fulfillment in our lives is abundant.  If these needs are met at a low level, we will experience life as being unsatisfactory and disappointing.  I think that we can agree that Tony’s philosophy of what lies at the root of human aspiration and the extent to which these needs are met make a difference

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Barn Musing – Edition 6

Barn Musings

Welcome to Barn Musings. These weekly newsletters aim to provide you with timely, inspiring, and useful
reflections and findings from Meet Me At The Barn. I promise to keep the content brief and brilliant. The ultimate
goal is to create a community forum that is supportive, imaginative, and focused on possibility. Here we go!

                                                                                          Watch this video featuring Simon Sinek.
 

Years ago, I watched Simon Sinek do his Ted Talk on “It Starts With Why.”  In this YouTube video, he reviews much of what was in his original talk but adds some fascinating details.  For instance, he reveals that the Apple computer is an average, at best computer compared to other PC’s. He also talks about why people get a Harley Davidson tattoo when they don’t own a motorcycle. I am sure that you will be as intrigued with Sinek’s explanation of human nature as I was. Have a look!
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What Do You Want More Of In Your Life?

What Is Missing In Your Life?

I was at my barn, one of my favorite spots to “be” the other day, surrounded by my two horses and my sweet Australian Shepherd, 2Sox.  The horses were contently eating, and 2Sox was busy appreciating the smells of the early morning.  I was scooping horse shit into my Gator and carting it off to the compost pile; it’s one of my favorite things to “do.”   Why?  Because I am outside in nature doing a chore that doesn’t require much talent, and it is when I have some of my best thoughts.   I stood there for a minute, and I pinched myself, literally as I often do and said out loud, “I am so grateful to be here and have this wonderful property.”  And then I thought, I wonder what most people want out of their life.  Later that day I did what I always do when I am curious about something, I Googled it.  The first thing that popped up was an article by Kathy Caprino titled, The Top 10 Things People Want In Life But Can’t Seem To Get.  It was the “can’t seem to get” part that caught my attention.

Caprino surveyed 700 people.  The key question the survey probed was:  If you could say in one word what you want more of in life, what would it be?  What intrigued the author most is that it is becoming more and more obvious that the things we humans desperately long for today are

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Barn Musing – Edition 5

Barn Musings

Welcome to Barn Musings. These weekly newsletters aim to provide you with timely, inspiring, and useful
reflections and findings from Meet Me At The Barn. I promise to keep the content brief and brilliant. The ultimate
goal is to create a community forum that is supportive, imaginative, and focused on possibility. Here we go!

                                                                                          Read Bad Blood by John Carreyrou

This was a page turner for me.  Elizabeth Holmes started Theranos in 2003 after dropping out of Stanford University at the age of 19,  She had an idea that could change healthcare and healthcare delivery.  She convinced people like Larry Ellison, George Schultz, Henry Kissinger, and many others to invest in her company to the tune of $700 million.  The only challenge is the equipment and testing mechanism she helped to spearhead never worked.  Unfortunately, she lied for years about the capabilities of her technology which led to the demise of her company.  John Carreyrou, a Pulitzer Prize-winning investigative reporter for the Wall Street Journal with the help of

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Barn Musing – Edition 4

Barn Musings

Welcome to Barn Musings. These weekly newsletters aim to provide you with timely, inspiring, and useful
reflections and findings from Meet Me At The Barn. I promise to keep the content brief and brilliant. The ultimate
goal is to create a community forum that is supportive, imaginative, and focused on possibility. Here we go!

                                                                                    Watch Screen Time with Diane Sawyer
Today, American adults spend the equivalent of 49 days a year on their phone and tablets. For six months, Sawyer and her team traveled across the country talking to families, teachers, doctors, and even tech insiders to pursue questions, answers, and solutions. From coast to coast, a question: People love the wonders of technology, but have they become too consumed with the little screens in their pockets?
I have added the YouTube links to Sawyer’s special below:

YouTube Part One
YouTube Part Two
YouTube Part Three
YouTube Part Four
YouTube Part Five

After sending out a call to families across America, Sawyer and the team

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What Do Moms Really Want for Mother’s Day? The Top 10 Best Gifts all Mother’s Would Love Copy

Mother’s Day was proclaimed a national holiday in 1914 when Woodrow Wilson signed a declaration designating the second Sunday in May as a day to honor mothers.  Since then, there is no doubt that moms across America have experienced everything from breakfast in bed featuring burnt toast and cold coffee to a measly Mother’s Day card purchased the night before at 7-Eleven.

I have three boys; 2Sox, Chief, and Winston.  That’s right, the closest I have come to motherhood is my current brood of a really smart Australian Shepherd and two retired ranch horses so I was curious about what moms really want for Mother’s Day.  I did some research and after compiling the data I have come up with this top ten list:

  1. A Day All To Herself.  As much as moms love being moms, they also crave a day all to themselves.  That’s right, simply a day off to do whatever she wants.  No cooking, no cleaning, no car-pooling or any other mom duties; nothing, zero, zilch, none.  So, if you are looking for a treasured gift for mom, here you go.  If you want to encourage mom to carve out some quiet time for herself each day, consider a “Be” – Attitudes Kit.
  2. Sleep. It is no secret that most moms are sleep deprived so there should be no astonishment over the fact that she wants to sleep, sleep, sleep.  So, let her!  All day if she wants.  And, this might include an afternoon
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