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Do You Know The 4 Agreements?

What Are The 4 Agreements?

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote The Four Agreements in 1997.  Since that time it has sold 7.2 million copies and has been translated into 40 languages.  That’s big.  It’s a lot.  I understand why.  I read the book when it first came out and I have read it on a yearly bases since.  This past week I revisited the wisdom of this powerful book.  I needed some reminders.  Here is a summary of the agreements from the research I found on the internet.

The First Agreement:  Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Don’t use words that speak against who you are and most definitely do not gossip about others.  Your words are powerful so use them for inspiration, truth, and love.  I have found that it is best to use words that change a situation or a circumstance for the better.  If not, stay quiet and listen.

The Second Agreement:  Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing that others do is because of you.  What someone else says or does is a projection of their own reality.  If you want to save yourself from being the victim of needless suffering, don’t plug into the opinions and actions of others.  And, sometimes things just simply are not about you!  I have always said, what others think of me is none of my business.

The Third Agreement:  Don’t Make Assumptions

Have the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can

Who Do You Surround Yourself With?

People Matter

Who do you surround yourself with?  The old saying, ‘birds of a feather flock together’ is true.  People who have similar interests, ideas, characteristics, and values tend to associate with one another.  It makes a difference who you ‘hang out’ with.  People that you spend a lot of time with have an influence on you whether you recognize it or not.  Think about the top five people that you spend most of your time with.  Who are they?  What do they do?  How do they impact your life?  How do they challenge you?  How do they encourage you?  Make a list and answer these questions about each of them.  When you are finished have a serious look at your answers and decide if they are someone that you want to continue to have in your life.

How Do You Want Your Life To Be?

When was the last time you seriously considered the kind of life that you want to live?  I think that it is a worthwhile exercise and I suggest that you make it an annual inquiry if not quarterly.  Once you have decided this for yourself, think about who you know that lives like you want to live.  This could be someone from your circle of friends, great authors, artist, speakers, or well-known people in history.  Start spending time with these folks.  Invite them for coffee or a nature walk and ask them what their life strategies are.  Read their books, listen to their talks and podcasts, learn

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