Monthly Archives: November 2018

Habit 5: They Embrace Fear

Embracing Fear

As counter-intuitive as it sounds, embracing fear is a habit of highly joyful, successful, and content people.  This article by Tess Marshall gives 11 Tips to Embrace Your Fear.  It is a good read.  Have a look.

Everyone has fear. Some of us choose to ignore it, deny it and stay stuck in it. Others learn to embrace fear, befriend it and move beyond it.

You might envy people who are reaching their goals and living their dreams. You might ask, “Why not me?” “When is it my turn?”

The difference between you and the people who succeed and the people you admire is they are willing to work and overcome their fears in order to get where they want to be.

They are willing to fail, take risks and work long hours. They are willing to face rejection and invest their energy and money. They are willing to do what it takes.

Don’t allow your fear to grip you body, mind and spirit. Don’ allow your fear to wage a fight with you and your dreams.
You can learn to shrink your fear and build your confidence and courage.

The next time fear leaves you in a paralyzing state try these exercises.

1. Track your fears

Write down your fears in your journal. Next to each fear, write down it’s origin. Write down how it has controlled you in the past?

Set aside time and reflect on what you’ve written. Don’t judge your fear. Your goal is to understand it and give it space. Fear loses its hold when

Habit 4: They Read

Habit 4:  They Read

The benefits of reading are vast.  Have a look at Lana Winter-Herbert’s article on Why You Should Read Every Day

When was the last time you read a book or a substantial magazine article? Do your daily reading habits center around tweets, Facebook updates, or the directions on your instant oatmeal packet?

If you’re one of the countless people who doesn’t make a habit of reading regularly, you might be missing out.

Reading has a significant number of benefits, and here’re ten benefits of reading:

1. Mental Stimulation

Studies have shown that staying mentally stimulated can slow the progress of (or possibly even prevent) Alzheimer’s and Dementia,[1] since keeping your brain active and engaged prevents it from losing power.

Just like any other muscle in the body, the brain requires exercise to keep it strong and healthy, so the phrase “use it or lose it” is particularly apt when it comes to your mind. Doing puzzles and playing games such as chess have also been found to be helpful with cognitive stimulation.[2]

2. Stress Reduction

No matter how much stress you have at work, in your relationships, or countless other issues faced in daily life, it all just slips away when you lose yourself in a great story. A well-written novel can transport you to other realms, while an engaging article will distract you and keep you in the present moment, letting tensions drain away and allowing you to relax.

3. Knowledge

Everything you read fills your head with new

Habit 3: Meditate

Habit 3:  Meditation

There are so many benefits that come as a result of meditation.  This article by Jonni Pollard points out 20 reasons to meditate.  Have a look.

There are literally hundreds of commonly experienced and scientifically validated benefits of meditation. We’ve compiled the top twenty that will make you want to start meditating right now.

We’ve broken them up into two main categories – the physical health benefits and the psychological benefits.

Physical health benefits of meditation
  • Meditation literally grows your brain… both in volume and thickness. This doesn’t just make you smarter; it increases your memory, attention, self-awareness, and self-control alongside a whole list of other desirable qualities.
  • Meditation increases blood flow to your brain… the brain can’t function without a strong steady flow of blood to it. The stronger and steadier the flow, the better the brain functions.
  • Meditation reduces cortisol production, a stress-induced hormone that suppresses the immune system and can make you feel anxious nervous and unsettled for no real reason (other than having too much cortisol in your system).
  • Meditation reduces blood pressure and heart rate, which alleviates unnecessary pressure on your heart and arteries.
  • Meditation increases neuroplasticity. This is the brain’s ability to organize itself, adapt to demands and enables you to become more efficient in the learning process.
  • Meditation increases the production of good neurotransmitters including serotonin and dopamine, both of which play a huge role in controlling our moods. It’s understood that low levels of serotonin cause depression.
  • Meditation triggers the parasympathetic nervous system, which enables us to rest and recover from
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Habit 2: They Talk To Themselves In The Mirror

Talk To Yourself In The Mirror

Joyful, triumphant, and content people make it a frequent practice to talk to themselves in the mirror.  Are they crazy? No.  Research has shown that there are many valuable benefits of talking to yourself in the mirror.  So what do they say?  Well here are  seven things that people who experience more joy, success, and contentment in their living say to themselves:

1.  There are no mistakes.  Only lessons.

These folks have come to know that making mistakes is part of life.  Their viewpoint is that errors are their pathway to learning and success.  Also, these folks are more content in their lives because they accept the fact that mistakes are often gifts.  They take things in stride and don’t get bogged down in negative thoughts or self-talk.

2.  They are clear about why they started a project or adventure.

They remind themselves often of why they started down a path to begin with, whether it is starting a business, writing a book, entering into a relationship, or planning a trip.  They consistently check in with their decision to commit in the first place.  They also enjoy the growth that comes along with the project or adventure.

3.  They encourage themselves to get it right before they start.

It is much easier to get it right to begin with than it is to right the ship after it has sailed.  They spend the time to think through the details on the front end of a decision.  They don’t rush to a result. 

Habits of Highly Joyful, Successful, and Content People

Keeping A Journal

Why keep a journal?  Well, it is one of the twenty-one habits of highly joyful, successful, and content people.  I have done the reserch and I want to share with you these habits.  The first is that they keep a journal.  There are many good and useful reasons to start this daily practice and embrace the habit.  Darius Foroux explains it better that I so I am sharing his blog post here.  You can learn more about Darius at www.dariusforoux.com

Read This If You Want To Keep A Journal But Don’t Know How

A journal is the best self-awareness tool there is.

Just open any given site that publishes articles on personal growth, and you will find at least one article that says: Why Keeping A Journal Will Change Your Life.

Please stop it for goodness sake. We know it by now!

When I talk to friends, or when I coach people, I always ask: “Do you keep a journal?”

This probably won’t surprise you, but the answer is almost always “No.”

And the funny thing is that everyone knows that they should keep one. But should is not enough. There are a lot of things that we should do—but we don’t do them.

Why? We have no idea HOW to do them.

It’s just like when you were in

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