In the Lines In The Sand Class that I teach I request that the participants find and live their truth. This means to show up fearless and be who you really are; your true essence. As we continue to dive into the relationship series I am inviting you to do the same thing. For now, let’s stick to our relationship with our parent(s). How happy and healthy is your connection with the folks? Are you being authentic in your bond with them or are you playing a part, tolerating the situation and neglecting your truest self? Look at your relationship with them as a garden. Does it need to be weeded, fertilized, dug up and replanted, thinned out, or completely torn down?
This is a process and may take some time. For example, for several years prior to George’s (that was my dad’s name) death I rarely, practically never, had any communication with him. The reason doesn’t matter as it is water under the bridge at this point. When he died, I was involved with my two brothers in making funeral and burial arrangements. Together we respectfully created a wonderful celebration in his honor. That was nine years ago. It wasn’t until Father’s Day last year that I had given much thought to George’s passing and I had seldom reflected back on my relationship with him over the years. However on the morning of Father’s Day 2015 as I was walking to my barn to feed my horses, George came to