I came across an article a few days ago that caught my attention. The author is a recently divorced man in his late 20’s. His perspective on why modern day marriages fail is because of technology; specifically smart-phones, iPads, and to a lesser degree television. Intriguing, sad, alarming and unfortunately a trend that appears to be picking up speed. As this young man accurately points out, it is not the device that is the problem it is peoples addiction to instant gratification and ego strokes. The gadgets are merely the mechanism of delivery. So much emphasis is being placed on our “digital” lives, we lose sight of the importance and beauty of the person sitting directly across the table from us.
I read this sage advice of Eckhart Tolle during my ‘quiet time’ this morning. I found it to be simple and sound advice so I want to share this with you.
“If you no longer want to create pain for yourself and others, if you no longer want to add to the residue of past pain that still lives on in you, then don’t create more time, or at least no more than is necessary to deal with the practical aspects of your life. How to stop creating time? Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life. Whereas before you dwelt in time and paid brief visits to the NOW, have your dwelling place in the NOW and pay brief visits to past and future when required to deal with the practical aspects of your life situation.